Your System Isn’t Trying to Sabotage You - It’s Trying to Speak to You

Most of us grew up learning one story about our internal world:

“Push through.”

“Get over it.”

“Don’t make a fuss.”

“Stop overthinking.”

“Be strong.”

But the body has always had a different story - quieter, older, wiser.

And honestly?

Most of us were never taught how to listen.

When “I’m fine” isn’t fine

There’s a moment I see all the time in my Somatic IFS work:someone describes a behaviour they feel ashamed of - procrastination, people-pleasing, zoning out, shutting down, snapping at their partner - and then whispers:

“I don’t know why I keep doing this.”

Here’s the part that changes everything:

These patterns aren’t failures. They’re communication.

Your system isn’t sabotaging you. It’s signalling that something inside needs tending.

IFS gives us language.

Somatic work (working with the body) gives us access.

The combination gives us permission to move beyond managing symptoms… into genuine understanding and inner relationship.

You don’t have to go inward alone

We are living through a world full of overwhelm - personal, collective, political, global.And under that weight, many people turn inward… but in isolation.

Trying to process everything alone. Trying to “sort themselves out.” Trying to feel their way through without support.

What I’ve learnt again and again is this:

Feeling is relational.

Healing is relational.

We return to ourselves by returning together.

This is the heart of Root & Return Circle -a 6-week small-group space for people who want to understand their system, venture into their body a little more, be in connection with others, and practise coming home to themselves in community.

What happens inside the circle?

Across 6 weeks, you’ll experience:

• Somatic settling + gentle embodied inquiry

• IFS-based guided explorations

• Understanding your protectors & patterns

• The sense of being witnessed without pressure to perform

• A space where nothing is “too much” or “not enough”

You don’t need experience with IFS or somatics. Just a curiosity about why you respond the way you do - and the desire for more inner ease.

What the first cohort said:

"This was so artistic, creative, explorative, bringing awareness to more parts. Grateful."

"Thank you Caroline for creating and holding with such care and integrity to support a  gentle therapeutic space for us."

If something in you has been whispering: “I need a way back to myself…”

…this circle might be the beginning.

The next round starts soon, online, with limited spaces so the room stays intimate and spacious.

If you’d like early access to booking (and to read more) you can click here

Your system already knows the way home.

We just go together.